Our relationship with the state is a love/hate relationship, as one might have with an abusive parent. Only he is not our true (biological) father or mother (i.e. the legitimate heir of our original tribe) who has adopted us (taken the place of our original tribe) for noble and selfless reasons, as we have been deceived, since birth, into believing, but an imposter whose purpose has always been to exploit us, to whom, notwithstanding our dependency on him, we owe no love or loyalty whatsoever.
Some of his children he spoils, at the expense of the others, thus encouraging and exploiting sibling rivalry and dividing us amongst ourselves.
If we were not so deceived and divided, we could, over time and proceeding peacefully and grassroots-democratically, make ourselves independent of this unnatural, exploitative and abusive father (mother or Auntie), and finally rid ourselves of them, along with vast majority of the problems now posing an existential threat to our whole civilization.
To understand the truly horrific nature of the state (thus our reluctance to recognise and face up to it) one must view it from a human-evolutionary, i.e. Darwinian, perspective: see other BLOG.